Get the Groom into Toronto wedding planning

Getting A Toronto groom Involved in wedding planning can be hard. Do you want to get your soon to be husband involved more with the wedding? Does he seem uninterested? Well, you know what they say: happy wife, happy life. The groom most likely feels it’s not his place to make decisions. Here are some ways to involve him in the planning process. 

Let him help from the start.

If you suddenly want his input after shooting him down when picking wedding colours and then ask about the colour of invitations, he won’t feel his opinion is valid. Make sure he feels heard and acknowledged. You are marrying them, so; you probably don’t hate all his ideas. 

Don’t overwhelm him

There’s a fine line between busy work and essential tasks. It may seem silly asking him what chairs he prefers so, make sure he knows the importance behind the job. If he understands why it’s an important decision, he will put more effort into it. If you disagree with his choice, ask him what led to that decision. Offer your insight as to why you aren’t sure and collaborate. Maybe he thought of something you hadn’t.

Focus on his strengths

Let’s face it; we all have things we are good at and things we are awful at doing. When we think we are doing a lousy job at something, we tend not to be as excited about it. It’s uncomfortable to feel like you aren’t contributing as much as other people. Your groom could think that they aren’t able to participate in meaningful ways. So play to their strengths. If they are good at using their hands, have them build wedding decor. If they are more of a spreadsheet person, have them update the budget consistently. 

Involve his family

This one is a little controversial. But if you feel like you have tried everything to get involved and aren’t engaging in the wedding planning. Call his mother, not in complaining about her son’s way, but invite her to get involved. She will love it, and the more people you have from his side engaged in the planning process. 

Ask him questions

Regardless of what type of person you are, everyone loves giving their opinions. It validates your ideas and reinforces that the other person thinks highly enough of you to ask you for your thoughts on something. So bring him some choices and then ask him what he thinks. 

Make a task list

Once you have a list of tasks, start dividing it up. Ask him what he wants to do and then set deadlines. Deadlines are because you can put them in your calendar to remind you to get the tasks done and give them a sense of importance.

Decorations

Ask him to pick at least one decoration. It doesn’t matter what it is but something that brings him joy. Maybe he has seen Toronto’s big light-up marquee. Now he wants one with his last name in it to flex a little. Maybe it’s something silly like table confetti decorations. It brings him joy and that when he sees at the wedding, he can show his friends. 

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The boring stuff

It’s not all picking colours and choosing decor. Sometimes it’s stuffing envelopes and writing addresses. It’s not fun, and no one wants to do it, so put on a show you both watch in the background and use it as the time you spend together. Talk about your day and how work was. Also, turning it into a race to see who can do more often works, the prize can be anything from picking the next movie you watch together, or the loser has to do an extra chore.

Veto power

Make sure he feels comfortable nixing your ideas. No one likes being told no, so make sure that the first time it happens, you handle it well. A happy wife is a happy life but usually, he won’t say no without reason. Feel free to ask what the reason is, but make sure that you acknowledge his concerns. If you can say no to his ideas, he should be comfortable saying no to yours.  

Remember, it’s just as much his day as it is your day. Don’t just ask him to do the boring stuff because it feels like helping with the wedding and helping plan the wedding. Make him feel appreciated and make sure he understands all the work you are doing too.